Manifesting Dreams & Surrendering Control

It’s been a trying few months. It has been the kind of months where I thought, It can’t get worse than this, and then it would. Or I’d perceive it that way. I’d perceive life as a constant fight I couldn’t win. I was getting hit from all sides, hard hits, soft hits, painful hits. All of them from the past, present, and future. The mind controlling me in the most painful way possible—I wasn’t enough.

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When I’m feeling this way, I write. I write a word or I write ten thousand words. Anything to release what is in me—pain, sadness, resentment. I’m a student of life. I learn as I go, and I experience triggers. I experience obstacles because that is how we learn. At times it’s easy to forget that we are still learning when we are in the role of guide, or coach in my case. But we are. We are all constantly learning and growing. We evolve with each morning we wake up to and rise with each night we lay our heads to rest.

With challenging months, I was forced to face so many things in my life (some I was aware of and chose to ignore, and others I’m still figuring out). I was stuck in that same pattern, stuck on repeat like a song you don’t like but can’t stop humming, when I came across a reminder. “I am” affirmations. As a life coach, I teach clients to work with positive intentions in the present moment to build belief and manifest desires. The key to intentions is the combination of belief and want. When I saw a post about “I am” intentions, I was taken back to the advice I give others.

Why is it we never take our own advice?

This post reopened my eyes. I know this. I know what to do when my vibrations are low and my beliefs are crap. I decided to start working my own intentions. In the morning, mid-day, afternoon, you name it and I was affirming. I believed them. I expressed beliefs I was confident about. I am still doing it. Every chance I get I take a few seconds to mentally say my affirmations. I take a few minutes to write them down in my journal.

I felt as my mind started to calm, my soul relax. Peace entered me as I said goodbye to the constant torment I was struggling with. All of a sudden, the things I was worrying about became minimal as I made the conscious choice to live in the present, feel each breath that filled me, and spend more time with people.

It’s amazing what we can do when we make choices to look at things from a positive perspective and be present. That post I came across was exactly what I needed. I needed that gentle reminder that I can have what I want if I release control and allow the process of life to happen. I can manifest what I desire when I surrender the mind and love freely. I continue my daily intentions and breathing. I continue to trust in the grandness of the universe and know that each experience is one for me to learn from. If I resist it, the lesson will continue to hit me until I accept it and grow. If I choose to learn the lesson the first time, I will move through my journey a little lighter and wiser.

At the end of the day, I want to lay my head to rest, grateful for the gifts I’ve received (even those unanswered prayers, are gifts as well). The universe knows what we need. Our higher self knows what we need. It will feed our souls, and it is up to us to grasp those lessons and surrender to something greater than this human experience.


Examples of “I am” affirmations. We each add what we want to set as our intention.

I am healthy.

I am abundant.

I am a successful writer (insert your career).

I am at the perfect weight/size for my body.

I am beautiful.

I am in harmony.

I am in a loving and respectful relationship.

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Fear for the Unknown

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Lately I’ve been rooted, stuck in place with gripping quicksand. Not the type of grounded where confidence rules you and your root chakra is aligned. Mine is shaken, all the way up to my core, where I’ve teetered between who I remember and who I’ve become because of the fear. Despite daily affirmations and weekly intentions, I have struggled to find my footing. 

Digging deep within and exploring our darkest corners can shake us. Finding what is hidden in our souls can tempt to break us. But our courage can strengthen us. Allow us to stand up and fight the demons taunting us and challenges holding us back. 

My wings are itching to fly, take me to new grounds and newer experiences. I’m itching to break the limitations I’ve created and soar. 

Who doesn’t want that freedom? 

Yet, the unknown can be intimidating. It can hold us back from finding greatness because we prefer to stay comfortable. However, I vowed to break this new routine—a routine that goes against my being. I vowed to remind myself of the strength I have always carried, the wilderness that has always guided me, and return to the free-spirit that has longed to wander this earth with an open and wild heart.

Trusting the universe, and allowing for what’s in my heart to manifest, gives me the freedom to flap those wings and understand the balance between soaring amongst the stars and returning to my home on Earth to ground and recharge. Believe in my dreams and accomplish my goals. Most importantly, live the life I have always dreamed of. The life I deserve. The life I have ached to experience.

It is so much easier to allow the weightless wings to guide you than the weight of fear to control you.

We can have all we want if we remove the uncertainty of the unfamiliar and explore it with an open mind.

A Year of Change

It’s not you, it’s not me~ Breaking the bonds of blame

The age old excuse to end a relationship, the “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse has been so over used that people receive it as, “it is you, not me”. We go out of our way to find someone to blame for “failed” relationships. We allow our ego and pride to interfere in the truth of what people and experiences really are.

When we stop looking at the end of a relationship with bitterness and resentment we will see the true beauty that this ending holds. Life is a series of lessons and rides that lead us down a path carved just for us, so we can grow and learn what we need. So we can clear old karmas and free ourselves of the past.

Maybe a break up has nothing to do with you or me. Maybe it is just the way things work when we are done learning from people and are ready to move on. As humans, it is hard for us to accept endings and reflect on their purpose, but how much happier would we be if we stopped blaming and started living? Living from a part of us that holds no negativity and is compassionate and understanding. What if this is all part of a greater plan? Destiny isn’t just about the ever after, but about the journey to reach that. Destiny takes us through an adventure that sometimes includes heartbreak and other times joy, but always a lesson. And many times what we expect is not what is. Once we take off the blindfold and see clearly through our mind’s eye, we understand the reasoning behind things.

Moving forward with the lessons we take from each relationship, from our soulmates if we’re lucky enough to cross paths with them, or from partners that we create deep connections with, is something we could all aim for. Lower those blaming fingers and embrace that soul that was an important part of your life at that moment, a necessary part of your life. Caress each other one last time beyond the physical level and hold on to the things that will help you evolve. Holding on to the resentment is just poison that will slowly kill your being and get in the way of your happiness.

Instead of pointing fingers or making up excuses for why things don’t work out with a person, thank them and the experience, move on with happiness and peace, and prepare yourself to embark in another chapter of this beautiful book called life.

So if the time comes where you and a partner say goodbye and travel down separate roads, remember that it’s not his fault or her fault, your lack of commitment or desire for them. Love isn’t about blaming someone for an unsuccessful relationship but grasping the true beauty of it and continuing to move forward. So release the old excuse, stop blaming yourself or others, and leave a relationship with mutual understanding, respect, and compassion.

Fearless~not lacking fear, but embracing confidence

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A few months ago I decided to make a decision that has been years in the making—quit my nine to five and do what I love. It was a craving I’ve had for some time now. One I would begin to satisfy and then starve myself from. The reason always being fear. What if I didn’t make enough money to support myself? What if I failed? What if people thought I was crazy? What if… If you’ve read any of my posts, you’ll know that the what if is an excuse we place because of insecurity and fear. It’s a cover up to avoid the worst. Why do we even imagine the worst? We are masochists. We rather dwell on our failures than bask in our success. Because of fear.

When I saw this sign at a store, I had to get it. I had it pinned on a Pinterest board and thought to myself, “One day I’ll buy that.” I’d say it was pure coincidence finding it when I did, but there is no such thing as a coincidence. I found the sign when I needed to find it. I found it when I was beginning a new journey. I found it when I had decided to put aside my fears and dive head first into the unknown. A big unknown.

I’m not to say that I live one hundred percent fearlessly because I am still growing and learning. I am still lifting my confidence and belief in all I can accomplish. But when I decided to quit teaching to become a full-time writer and LuLaRoe Consultant, I decided to take a risk on my happiness. It was then that I asked myself, “How much do you believe in YOU?” Working independently can be a difficult road. I’m a realist. There are and will be challenges and there will be moments I question my own sanity. (More than I already do. ;)) However, this was something I needed to do for me. How could I preach confidence and worth when I wasn’t fully giving myself the opportunity to live my truth?

So has begun the journey of being self-employed, of flexibility, and of hard work. I have worked hard my whole life for things I love, and sometimes for what I didn’t love. I’ve always taken my jobs seriously. But this time, this is for me. This new career path was a choice in my personal journey as well. I’ve been working hard in my self-confidence, my security, my self-love. This is my turn to look at what I can do, believe in myself, and work from the heart.

I can make what I love a priority and turn it into a career. How great is that? Talking to my aunt and cousin the other day, we were discussing our purpose. My aunt said, “Your purpose is what comes from the heart. It’s something that fulfills you. Not just a job, but going into that job knowing you are doing what you love and working happily in that choice.” That’s what I’m starting to do.

I’ve always wanted to write. I’ve been working towards having a career where I can guide others, and my words do that. Now, I can help empower women as well in growing that confidence, because for me, LuLaRoe is more than clothes. It’s an opportunity teach others what I, myself, have learned about self-worth and self-love. Through writing and fashion I can live out my purpose. I can incorporate my healing practices and what I’ve learned in that journey.

In LuLaRoe, they ask what your Why is. Why did you want to join this company? Why did you want to become a consultant? My why is simple, I want to be happy. I want to empower others by empowering myself. I want to accomplish greatness and wake up each morning excited about what I do. Will I sometimes still feel fear? Probably. It’s part of life, right? It’s part of the lessons and reminder that we can crush that negative voice and continue to believe in ourselves. It’s overcoming that fear which allows us to continue becoming empowered.

I am a work in progress, just like the many stories I create. Just like the business I run. We are constantly growing and learning, but when I see my sign and I read the word Fearless, I am reminded of my strength. I am reminded that above all, I have the ability to create my own happiness.

Breaking Up with Convention

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I have always had an internal battle—doing what I want and what was expected. Especially the older I got. I’ll admit I’ve always had a rebellious attitude when it came to society’s norms, but when it came to routine things I found it difficult to break my ties with convention. My gut tells me to break free and fly, but my brain roots me to a nine to five and all the guidelines attached to it, settling in the “should be.” I leave my dreams and passions as second, a hobby to add to my free time that I long to devour at all hours of the day. A mental block that climbing the corporate ladder is the only way to succeed.

But I know better. My heart knows better. It knows of a success beyond the dollar signs and status. It knows of another status. The status of happiness. Until what point are you willing to give up happiness for the misconceived tell-tale of success?

There is no greater war than the one with yourself. I have spent years fighting the urge to free my gypsy soul and live according the rules I create. Years wanting to risk being a social outcast—a badge I wear proudly— so I could let go of convention and do what I want. I walk the streets of life questioning myself for decisions I continue to make knowing that they don’t feed my soul. A soul I have lately reconnected with and learned to nourish. A soul that I have searched long and hard for to just abandon again because it doesn’t fit a mold all others believe is the right match.

I have spent years healing, working on myself, and discovering what this life is all about. It’s time to take off the masks and stop playing dress up. It’s time to stop living the way it is expected from the outside and begin living the way I internally want to.

Fear is just a block that prevents us from following our dreams. I’m washing off my fear, shaking off doubt, and cutting off limitations. I am taking my life by the reins and sprinting off in the directions of my dreams.

It is no longer acceptable to me to make decisions and commitments based on what the world says is right. I’m no longer doubting my urges to live differently. It’s time to see things for what they are. I’m stripping down unashamedly and being the truest form of me. I’m releasing petty worries, believing in myself, and rebelling against what should be so that what is can shine.

No matter what, I need to put myself first. My well-being. My dreams. My happiness. When you reflect and find that happiness is lacking, it’s time to reassess and change things. I’m coming in full force to regain my peace. To regain who I am at my core without judgment. I’m saying goodbye to convention and taking a risk on me.

 

New Year~Believing in our resolutions

photo-1421986527537-888d998adb74.jpegIn a few days we will be celebrating the start of a new year. I love seeing the optimism online of people ready for the new year to accomplish new goals. I have goals as well, things I want to reach in the near future, but I think it’s important to understand that resolutions can be set and accomplished at any time. Hear me out.

We don’t need the excuse of a new year or a certain age to set and reach milestones. We have every opportunity to follow our hearts at our fingertips. Instead of waiting for a reason to do what you feel in your being, start now. Today. Waiting for the right time is limiting yourself to all the universe has to offer. How many times do we say we will lose weight starting the new year? Now is the time for me to diet. It’s an excuse that has been overused, myself included. If you want to feel healthy, start now. Be conscious of taking care of your body. And instead of making it a pressure of looking a certain way deemed acceptable by society, change the mentality to feeling a certain way. Do it for yourself and overall wellbeing. Feel good in your skin and love yourself for who you are and for making yourself important enough to be a priority.

We get so caught up in the material resolutions that we forget that each day is an opportunity to continue becoming us in our personal journey. The way I see it, we can choose to reflect inwardly at what we have, be grateful for it, and become aware of what we want to continue working on in the coming times. I guess you can say that we shift our views from material to more spiritual if you want to give it a name.

Resolutions are just that, goals and promises we want to keep. If we look at it as something we want lifelong then we release the pressure and enjoy the path reaching them.

For some time now I have shifted my resolutions. I no longer say I want to lose weight or a higher paycheck. Trust me, it took a long time for me to understand this mentality. When I actually stopped to think about what I wanted, I realized I couldn’t put concrete things to it. I wanted a life I could love. I wanted things to continue being grateful for. I wanted dreams to become reality. To sum it up, I wanted my soul to be happy and free.

I started rewording my resolutions. Then, I became a life coach and understood intentions, or affirmations. It all clicked. The way we ask for things and the energy we put into our words and thoughts have a huge impact on the outcome. Stating things in a positive manner and present tense will open you to so much more. Most importantly, believe you can live a life you love.

My list of resolutions, or better yet, intentions is this:

  1. Be unapologetically me
  2. Follow my dreams
  3. Be grateful for all that comes into my life, the good and the challenging.
  4. Be raw and honest
  5. Love, for myself and others
  6. Be compassionate. Release judgment and understand everyone has their own journey in life.
  7. Become aware of the world around me with more than just my five senses.
  8. Keep my sense of wonder and adventure open
  9. Continue to develop my personal growth
  10. Believe in myself, my dreams, and the world

 

I wish you all the very best for this upcoming year and many blessings to you and your loved ones. Follow your path with an open heart and mind, and when the countdown begins to welcome a new year, believe in the magic of life. See it as what it is, another day to live out your purpose with confidence and love.