Fear for the Unknown

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Lately I’ve been rooted, stuck in place with gripping quicksand. Not the type of grounded where confidence rules you and your root chakra is aligned. Mine is shaken, all the way up to my core, where I’ve teetered between who I remember and who I’ve become because of the fear. Despite daily affirmations and weekly intentions, I have struggled to find my footing. 

Digging deep within and exploring our darkest corners can shake us. Finding what is hidden in our souls can tempt to break us. But our courage can strengthen us. Allow us to stand up and fight the demons taunting us and challenges holding us back. 

My wings are itching to fly, take me to new grounds and newer experiences. I’m itching to break the limitations I’ve created and soar. 

Who doesn’t want that freedom? 

Yet, the unknown can be intimidating. It can hold us back from finding greatness because we prefer to stay comfortable. However, I vowed to break this new routine—a routine that goes against my being. I vowed to remind myself of the strength I have always carried, the wilderness that has always guided me, and return to the free-spirit that has longed to wander this earth with an open and wild heart.

Trusting the universe, and allowing for what’s in my heart to manifest, gives me the freedom to flap those wings and understand the balance between soaring amongst the stars and returning to my home on Earth to ground and recharge. Believe in my dreams and accomplish my goals. Most importantly, live the life I have always dreamed of. The life I deserve. The life I have ached to experience.

It is so much easier to allow the weightless wings to guide you than the weight of fear to control you.

We can have all we want if we remove the uncertainty of the unfamiliar and explore it with an open mind.

A Year of Change

Fearless~not lacking fear, but embracing confidence

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A few months ago I decided to make a decision that has been years in the making—quit my nine to five and do what I love. It was a craving I’ve had for some time now. One I would begin to satisfy and then starve myself from. The reason always being fear. What if I didn’t make enough money to support myself? What if I failed? What if people thought I was crazy? What if… If you’ve read any of my posts, you’ll know that the what if is an excuse we place because of insecurity and fear. It’s a cover up to avoid the worst. Why do we even imagine the worst? We are masochists. We rather dwell on our failures than bask in our success. Because of fear.

When I saw this sign at a store, I had to get it. I had it pinned on a Pinterest board and thought to myself, “One day I’ll buy that.” I’d say it was pure coincidence finding it when I did, but there is no such thing as a coincidence. I found the sign when I needed to find it. I found it when I was beginning a new journey. I found it when I had decided to put aside my fears and dive head first into the unknown. A big unknown.

I’m not to say that I live one hundred percent fearlessly because I am still growing and learning. I am still lifting my confidence and belief in all I can accomplish. But when I decided to quit teaching to become a full-time writer and LuLaRoe Consultant, I decided to take a risk on my happiness. It was then that I asked myself, “How much do you believe in YOU?” Working independently can be a difficult road. I’m a realist. There are and will be challenges and there will be moments I question my own sanity. (More than I already do. ;)) However, this was something I needed to do for me. How could I preach confidence and worth when I wasn’t fully giving myself the opportunity to live my truth?

So has begun the journey of being self-employed, of flexibility, and of hard work. I have worked hard my whole life for things I love, and sometimes for what I didn’t love. I’ve always taken my jobs seriously. But this time, this is for me. This new career path was a choice in my personal journey as well. I’ve been working hard in my self-confidence, my security, my self-love. This is my turn to look at what I can do, believe in myself, and work from the heart.

I can make what I love a priority and turn it into a career. How great is that? Talking to my aunt and cousin the other day, we were discussing our purpose. My aunt said, “Your purpose is what comes from the heart. It’s something that fulfills you. Not just a job, but going into that job knowing you are doing what you love and working happily in that choice.” That’s what I’m starting to do.

I’ve always wanted to write. I’ve been working towards having a career where I can guide others, and my words do that. Now, I can help empower women as well in growing that confidence, because for me, LuLaRoe is more than clothes. It’s an opportunity teach others what I, myself, have learned about self-worth and self-love. Through writing and fashion I can live out my purpose. I can incorporate my healing practices and what I’ve learned in that journey.

In LuLaRoe, they ask what your Why is. Why did you want to join this company? Why did you want to become a consultant? My why is simple, I want to be happy. I want to empower others by empowering myself. I want to accomplish greatness and wake up each morning excited about what I do. Will I sometimes still feel fear? Probably. It’s part of life, right? It’s part of the lessons and reminder that we can crush that negative voice and continue to believe in ourselves. It’s overcoming that fear which allows us to continue becoming empowered.

I am a work in progress, just like the many stories I create. Just like the business I run. We are constantly growing and learning, but when I see my sign and I read the word Fearless, I am reminded of my strength. I am reminded that above all, I have the ability to create my own happiness.

Thirty never felt so good~Ditching my twenties a little wiser

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In a few days I’ll be turning 30. I’m still in denial. Not because I think I’m old, but because I feel nowhere near what 30 “should” feel like. I spent part of my 20s obsessed with the fact that I was aging. The other part, the part of my 20s that was closer to 30, was spent rejoicing my age. The irony of life—the older I got, the less I stressed my age.

Throughout these 30 years I have learned a lot, or better yet relearned. Life is full of turns and bumps as well as some straight shots. It’s what makes it beautiful and exciting. My life has led me to learn more than a few lessons. Here are some to keep with you no matter your age:

  1. Age really ain’t nothing but a number

Time is just a form of measure we need as humans to keep track of things. Age is a form of tracking the time we’ve spent living this life. It doesn’t define us or what we can do. It doesn’t limit us if we don’t allow it. Embrace the age you have, whether it’s 15 or 50 and live out your life the way you desire. No one is getting in your way but yourself. You want to rock the shoes you’ve been eyeing at the store, do it. Allow age to make you wiser because of the experiences you’ve had, not limit you to encountering more experiences.

  1. Love yourself

Oh, the never ending battle of “I’m not pretty enough. I’m not tall enough.” At 30, I can say I am well into my personal path of self-discovery. What have I discovered the most? Love begins within. Look at yourself and smile, admire your beauty and tell yourself the three little words we crave to tell someone else. Seduce yourself and find that love you have in your heart so it can blossom inwardly.

  1. Be unapologetically YOU

You are unique in this Earth. Shine your light bright and spread your beauty with the world. I plan to continue working towards this into my 30s. I’m fortunate that my birthday and the year end on the same day. My resolutions are my own reflections of myself, the past year and my evolution into me. The more I reconnect with who I am, the more I want to be that person. I no longer want to apologize for my likes or dislikes. I no longer want to hide my truth out of fear of not fitting in or letting someone down. It’s time to get real.

  1. The daydream is your reality

How many times do we spend dreaming of what could be? Reality begins somewhere, and it’s usually in our dreams, the desires we hold in our hearts that give us passion and drive in life. That same passion you have for hoping something would be a certain way or a certain job would be yours can be put into work. Make it happen. How exciting would it be to live your daydream? It’s possible. Take it from me. I spent a long time dreaming of things I wanted to do until I woke up one day and asked myself, why not? Work hard and stay humble. Dreams do come true.

  1. Don’t be embarrassed to sing in the car

I love to sing. I’m terrible at it. I can admit my weaknesses the same as my strengths. No matter how much I wanted to be a singer as a child, I know it’s not my forte. That doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy good music and jam to my favorite songs. Driving is the best time for that, but I used to shy away if cars were near. Why? I’m sure the person driving next to you is doing the same thing. And if they aren’t, they’re watching you and admiring your guts to let loose and be carefree.

  1. Throw society’s rulebook out the window

I’ve never been one to really follow the rules, especially those placed by society. Who said we had to be married by 23 with a college degree and satisfying job? Who said by age 25 we were supposed to have 2.5 children, which mathematically is not even accurate. And when did we think it was okay to stop living, truly living, in order to make other people happy? Society is made up of humans who decided they were going to put certain things a priority. What is my priority is not yours. If you want to be married with children by 25, go for it. If you want to travel, do that. I was lucky enough to live abroad, get my degree at my pace so I can explore the world, work different jobs, and get a few tattoos along the way. I’m single. I don’t have children. And I’m 30. Embrace your journey and follow your own guidelines to life. After all, you’re the one who is living it.

  1. Follow your intuition

How many times have I ignored thee? I’m grateful my intuition is still intact and willing to give me another chance. Follow your gut. Listen to your heart. And see with your mind’s eye. We know what’s up. Whether we choose to listen or not is our choice, but as soul beings we have an awareness we can develop and open so we can live honestly and knowingly. Our intuition is our guide. It informs us if we should eat that meal, or if that guy is a good date. Our knowingness is one of the greatest gifts we have. I have learned to listen closely and respect it. It’s amazing how life changes when you do.

  1. Date the boy (or girl)

I spent so many years closed off to the world that I never gave anyone a true chance at reaching my heart. I learned. I got hurt. But mostly, I was caged off. I’m at a place in my life now where I am open to meeting someone. I am at a place where I can reflect and be honest with myself. Maybe I could have given that guy I met back in high school a fair chance. I didn’t, but that doesn’t mean I did wrong. I did what I needed to do then. Now I know the difference between listening to my gut or listening to my fear. Don’t be afraid to open up to someone, even if that someone isn’t your forever. Date, meet people, and have fun. Experience different relationships, but always love yourself in the process and know what’s right for you. Keep your heart open to the possibility of falling in love and believe in the happily ever after.

  1. It’s okay to cry

I am the anti-crier. I really don’t get emotional often. I used to pride myself on my strong façade. Then, I went to a meditation a few days ago and the water dam was burst open. Ever since that day I have become overly emotional. At least for a lonely Capricorn like myself, getting emotional is a foreign language. Ever since that day though I have come to terms that it’s okay to show your emotions. Be proud for being human and having feelings instead of shaming yourself as a “weakling.” Seriously, I have become a softie, but instead of getting judged for expressing myself, I’ve been compassionate and others have as well. Feel free to express yourself honestly and demonstrate to the world what you’re feeling. My aunt jokes that it’s part of turning 30, but I know it is part of my own personal evolution. Cry it out and feel.

I look forward to the future. I am excited to see what my 30s will bring and continue to follow these things I mentioned above. And like that old Tim McGraw says, I look forward to my next thirty years.

Stop, Drop, and Choose

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I am an over thinker. I always have been. My heart is a free spirit that wants to wander the world aimlessly, and my brain is a Capricorn. I have learned to listen with my heart, follow it more and think less of the what if. Boy, do I dislike those what ifs. They are our brain getting in the way of a lovely plan that fills our souls. Do you ever get that kick or jump in your stomach that draws your attention? I have challenged myself to listen to that and just “Stop, Drop and Choose.” Choose what my heart wants on the first try. Ask myself a question, do I stay or go? If I stop, Drop and Choose, what is the first word that pops into my mind. Don’t over think, just do.

Ever since I was a young girl, I would get that gut feeling. I had no idea what it was, but I used to describe it like anti-butterflies. My stomach would not get that warm and fuzzy feelings, but instead it would churn. It would feel heavy and uncomfortable.

If I met a guy, I would think, “He’s cute. I’ll give him a chance.” And I would, because who wouldn’t want to give a cute guy you clicked with a chance? But I would always listen to my stomach. If I got that churning, uncomfortable feeling, I would break it off. Why be with someone who does not give you the good kind of butterflies? Listen to that.

Do you get happy butterflies or churning moths? If it churns, run and run fast, from any situation. Be brave enough to do what is right for you. But if those butterflies are full of love and care, stay and enjoy the caress. Your heart and soul know what is best for you, and they try to guide you. It is up to you, and me, to listen. From what I have learned from the lessons of not listening, I am choosing to pay attention, closely.

At first it may be difficult because our minds contradict what our intuition is telling us, but with practice you become more in tune with that part of you. Once you listen to that part of you and experience all the wonderful things that can happen, this practice will become more and more a part of your life.

I have challenged myself to choose. Choose the direction I want my life to go without thinking what could go wrong or asking what if I stay. I choose to listen to my butterflies when it comes to meeting the right man, and I choose to listen to my heart so I can move forward from a place of love and compassion.

I want chances to explore my world openly, without letting my brain get in the way, as it so often has in the past. Through my journey I have learned to trust myself a little more and ignore what the world says. I have gone with my instinct when it comes to a job, a place to live, or a relationship. It was difficult at first to separate the facts my mind created to the feeling my heart had. Even more difficult to explain this to others who were not one with their intuition, but I learned to release that and follow my gut, which is tied to my heart.

There is a freedom that comes with following our intuition, an opening within our hearts and souls and bodies that allows us to move through life with a different kind of confidence. I want to feel that always, everyday of my life. I want to be able to dance through my path so sure of each step that my soul is the captain of my body and my heart is the sail. Have the courage to live with your heart. Listen to its secrets and allow it to guide you.

So to you I say, Stop, Drop and Choose. What does your heart say?


A practice to become more in tune with your intuition is to sit in a quiet space by yourself, close your eyes and take a few deeps breaths to clear your mind from wandering thoughts. Once you are relaxed, think of a question you may have been asking yourself. Maybe it’s a choice you need to make. *{I found it easier to start with yes or no questions.}

Once you think of this, what is the first thought to enter your mind? That is your answer. That is your higher self and intuition responding over your analytical mind. This is the truth before we tear it apart and make excuses as to why it cannot be that way. Try it. Live it. See what happens in your life when you do.

*Examples of questions to begin with:

Is this the right job for me?

Is this the right car for me?

Lessons in Nature~What we see when we are centered and open

Sometimes what we need to see is right in front of us.
Sometimes what we need to see is right in front of us.

I was driving to meet two blogger friends­—one of them is a fellow author as well—when I hit major fog on I-75 driving north from Miami. Now, fog isn’t very common in South Florida so I’m not accustomed to driving in it. At first I thought it was a sheet of rain and was relieved when I realized it was fog. Ironic, huh? I’m used to rain but prefer to drive in something I am not familiar with.

The fog wasn’t terrible to drive in but it lasted for miles, some miles heavier than others, but I was always able to see the road right in front of me.

When I looked back through my rearview mirror I saw the sheet of gray that I had left behind. If I looked forward into the part of the road that awaited me, I saw another gray sheet. I was grateful for having the road clear enough for me to see a few yards ahead. Then it would get really heavy, likely relaying the message to pay attention to what the fog represented.

Finally it clicked just as I was stretching my neck like a giraffe to look ahead over the streak of humidity on my windshield to see just how bad the fog was up ahead. I just got it. I looked immediately in front of me where my car was, then through the rearview mirror. My mind was catching up slowly, testing me like our minds tend to do.

Then, in the silence of my car, I chuckled. I literally laughed out loud and told the universe, “touché, universe, touché.” The universe knows what we need and when we need it. As I was driving, my mind was relaxed and focused on the present, but I had been going through some rough days anxious about the future. The fog was there to remind me that the past is blurry and finished with, and the future is still not clear since we haven’t arrived to it yet. The present moment is the one that is transparent because it is where we are living. Our actions in the present moment mold our path for the future, releasing the past as it happens and continuing to move forward with an open mind and heart.

I thanked the fog for that reminder. Many times, most times for me, we are so obsessed with what will happen that we miss what is happening right now. Or we obsess with how to change the past when the only thing we can do is learn from it and continue to more forward, taking each lesson with us to help us grow.

I definitely needed that lesson during that week, so I made a pact with myself to release the stress and worry and just have fun in the present, as I trust the universe to work its magic. And what a mighty magic wand the universe owns when we trust it and allow our purpose to expand. Everything will work out the way it is meant to for all of our highest good, and when we trust and release the negativity that can sneak in, the universe conspires to helps us reach those desires.

Before this experience, I was aware that I needed to release the anxiety of the future and be present in the now, but that’s easier said than done, right? It took nature to interfere as something that I am not familiar with, something that would have really caught my attention, for me to learn this lesson. Then I thought to myself after I realized what was happening, Watch how the fog clears up now that you’ve learned your lesson. A couple of miles later the sun shone on my car and the view was clear.

It is amazing how we coexist in the world—humans, nature, animals—to create a balance and learn from each other. I want to share three practices that can help release anxiety and be mindful because we may not always have the fog right in our faces to open our eyes.

Tools for mindful living:

  1. Before getting out of bed in the morning, close your eyes and focus on your breath. Inhale and exhale slowly and steady, clearing your mind. You can repeat an affirmation for the day. An example, I am present, body and soul, in this moment. If you are struggling on releasing a worry or stress, you can repeat, I release what no longer serves me and accept what is, moving forward with an open heart.
  2. Go for a walk and be aware of your surroundings. Focus on the colors of the leaves, the flowers, the noises around you. Is there a dog barking or the wind blowing? Leave your electronics at home or in your car, and be one with your surroundings. A color walk is also wonderful. Choose a color in your mind, preferably not a common one in your area, and as you walk, focus on that color around you. These are different ways to disconnect from the chaotic world and come back to center.
  3. Do something you love. Whether it is painting, writing, exercise or cooking. Feed your soul with something that fulfills you and focus on that. Be mindful of the words you are writing or the vegetables you are chopping, the brush strokes, the movement of your hands or fingers across an instrument. When you do things that are true to you, you release negativity and open your mind to positive thinking. You create feel-good moments.

Motivation Monday

Hope everyone had a great weekend! At the beginning of a new work week, keep calm and stay positive towards all experiences you come across. When it comes to following your dreams, do so with an open heart and mind. I love the saying, “Don’t quit your daydream.” It resonates with me on so many levels. Our daydreams are what we carry in our hearts, our truth embedded in our souls. When we set the intention to follow our dreams, the universe works in our favor. Work hard {because everything we desire we must work toward} for what your heart desires, and like the quote on the image says, “go after it with all your heart.”

girl motivation Allow yourself to open up to the experiences you come across and take with you the lessons, for they are in your life as a part of your journey. Life isn’t a straight, flat plain, but a mountainous surface that keeps us inspired and motivated to climb and reach the top. We may have our ups and downs, but if we go after our daydream with all our heart, the journey is so worth exploring. Stay true to yourself and what you most wish for, releasing the stress and what-ifs that can sometimes enter our minds and control our situation. Live a life full of meaning and compassion, grateful for each opportunity you come across.

Have a beautiful week!

Namaste