worthy. loved. enough.

I’ve lied to myself. For years. I’ve spent hours whispering words of untruth into my heart, hardening it and hiding myself.

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It has taken a few years to detox those beliefs from my mind. Thoughts of never being enough for someone, not deserving the dreams and goals I have, being too this or too that, all causing limitations in my life. Beliefs that were passed on from older generations that were passed on to them. However, we’re living different times now.

We are in a point in human evolution where we no longer feed off the negative, instead it starves us. We feed from the positive because the veils that used to blind us have lifted and we are no longer believing the lies we’ve fed ourselves and have been fed. Shifts in the consciousness are happening and we see our truth and the truth of others. We see it is time to live from that place in our heart, where the soul lies. The soul is the only thing that is infinite. Understanding that, changes our perspective in life. It connects us to a grander vision and removes beliefs that hinder our growth.

So I say this:

You and I are worthy of our dreams and ambitions and success. You and I are loved so very much—love that comes from self to self and all those around us. We are deserving of that love. Embrace it. You and I are enough in this skin and life we are in, always striving to grow in our personal journey. We are enough to receive love. We are enough to accomplish our goals. We are enough to prosper and be abundant. We are enough to be alive.

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10 Affirmations for the New Year

When the New Year approaches, I normally reflect on the past year—my lessons, changes, and goals for the next year. I wouldn’t say I have a list of resolutions, more of a clearer view of where I want my life to go and how I want to grow in the coming months, taking with me what I learned in the past.

We area a compilation of lessons, struggles, and joy that have shaped us.

I have learned (and continue to learn) that all we can do is take the lessons without judging our path and become a truer version of ourselves in the process.

10 Affirmations

So this year, I am working with a list of intentions, or affirmations, that will guide me and keep me centered in the coming year. I know changes are coming to my life. I’ve been sensing them and preparing for them for a good half of this year (probably longer, who am I kidding?). It’s inexplicable how I can sense this, but a vibration within has been knocking on my soul to awaken and finally grasp my purpose. My preparation has been something I’ve slowly become aware of. And though at times I want to speed up the process, one of my greatest lessons this year is fully accepting divine timing.

I share my affirmations with you in hopes that you resonate with some or all. If you have affirmations that you are working with, I’d love to hear them. Drop a comment with yours. Together, we grow and raise the vibration of our collective consciousness.

10 Affirmations for the New Year

• I am living my best life.
• I am open to the changes coming my way.
• I flow with an open heart as I attract a healthy and loving relationship.
• I remove fear and replace it with joy and love.
• I experience each day, living a life I am proud of.
• I receive the lessons from the universe with an open mind and heart so that I may continue to evolve.
• I attract abundance in all areas of my life.
• I break away from limitations as I turn my dreams into goals and plans.
• I include myself in all aspects of my life, and remove veils of invisibility.
• I value my existence and honor my purpose in this life.

Manifesting Dreams & Surrendering Control

It’s been a trying few months. It has been the kind of months where I thought, It can’t get worse than this, and then it would. Or I’d perceive it that way. I’d perceive life as a constant fight I couldn’t win. I was getting hit from all sides, hard hits, soft hits, painful hits. All of them from the past, present, and future. The mind controlling me in the most painful way possible—I wasn’t enough.

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When I’m feeling this way, I write. I write a word or I write ten thousand words. Anything to release what is in me—pain, sadness, resentment. I’m a student of life. I learn as I go, and I experience triggers. I experience obstacles because that is how we learn. At times it’s easy to forget that we are still learning when we are in the role of guide, or coach in my case. But we are. We are all constantly learning and growing. We evolve with each morning we wake up to and rise with each night we lay our heads to rest.

With challenging months, I was forced to face so many things in my life (some I was aware of and chose to ignore, and others I’m still figuring out). I was stuck in that same pattern, stuck on repeat like a song you don’t like but can’t stop humming, when I came across a reminder. “I am” affirmations. As a life coach, I teach clients to work with positive intentions in the present moment to build belief and manifest desires. The key to intentions is the combination of belief and want. When I saw a post about “I am” intentions, I was taken back to the advice I give others.

Why is it we never take our own advice?

This post reopened my eyes. I know this. I know what to do when my vibrations are low and my beliefs are crap. I decided to start working my own intentions. In the morning, mid-day, afternoon, you name it and I was affirming. I believed them. I expressed beliefs I was confident about. I am still doing it. Every chance I get I take a few seconds to mentally say my affirmations. I take a few minutes to write them down in my journal.

I felt as my mind started to calm, my soul relax. Peace entered me as I said goodbye to the constant torment I was struggling with. All of a sudden, the things I was worrying about became minimal as I made the conscious choice to live in the present, feel each breath that filled me, and spend more time with people.

It’s amazing what we can do when we make choices to look at things from a positive perspective and be present. That post I came across was exactly what I needed. I needed that gentle reminder that I can have what I want if I release control and allow the process of life to happen. I can manifest what I desire when I surrender the mind and love freely. I continue my daily intentions and breathing. I continue to trust in the grandness of the universe and know that each experience is one for me to learn from. If I resist it, the lesson will continue to hit me until I accept it and grow. If I choose to learn the lesson the first time, I will move through my journey a little lighter and wiser.

At the end of the day, I want to lay my head to rest, grateful for the gifts I’ve received (even those unanswered prayers, are gifts as well). The universe knows what we need. Our higher self knows what we need. It will feed our souls, and it is up to us to grasp those lessons and surrender to something greater than this human experience.


Examples of “I am” affirmations. We each add what we want to set as our intention.

I am healthy.

I am abundant.

I am a successful writer (insert your career).

I am at the perfect weight/size for my body.

I am beautiful.

I am in harmony.

I am in a loving and respectful relationship.

Fear for the Unknown

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Lately I’ve been rooted, stuck in place with gripping quicksand. Not the type of grounded where confidence rules you and your root chakra is aligned. Mine is shaken, all the way up to my core, where I’ve teetered between who I remember and who I’ve become because of the fear. Despite daily affirmations and weekly intentions, I have struggled to find my footing. 

Digging deep within and exploring our darkest corners can shake us. Finding what is hidden in our souls can tempt to break us. But our courage can strengthen us. Allow us to stand up and fight the demons taunting us and challenges holding us back. 

My wings are itching to fly, take me to new grounds and newer experiences. I’m itching to break the limitations I’ve created and soar. 

Who doesn’t want that freedom? 

Yet, the unknown can be intimidating. It can hold us back from finding greatness because we prefer to stay comfortable. However, I vowed to break this new routine—a routine that goes against my being. I vowed to remind myself of the strength I have always carried, the wilderness that has always guided me, and return to the free-spirit that has longed to wander this earth with an open and wild heart.

Trusting the universe, and allowing for what’s in my heart to manifest, gives me the freedom to flap those wings and understand the balance between soaring amongst the stars and returning to my home on Earth to ground and recharge. Believe in my dreams and accomplish my goals. Most importantly, live the life I have always dreamed of. The life I deserve. The life I have ached to experience.

It is so much easier to allow the weightless wings to guide you than the weight of fear to control you.

We can have all we want if we remove the uncertainty of the unfamiliar and explore it with an open mind.

A Year of Change

Fearless~not lacking fear, but embracing confidence

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A few months ago I decided to make a decision that has been years in the making—quit my nine to five and do what I love. It was a craving I’ve had for some time now. One I would begin to satisfy and then starve myself from. The reason always being fear. What if I didn’t make enough money to support myself? What if I failed? What if people thought I was crazy? What if… If you’ve read any of my posts, you’ll know that the what if is an excuse we place because of insecurity and fear. It’s a cover up to avoid the worst. Why do we even imagine the worst? We are masochists. We rather dwell on our failures than bask in our success. Because of fear.

When I saw this sign at a store, I had to get it. I had it pinned on a Pinterest board and thought to myself, “One day I’ll buy that.” I’d say it was pure coincidence finding it when I did, but there is no such thing as a coincidence. I found the sign when I needed to find it. I found it when I was beginning a new journey. I found it when I had decided to put aside my fears and dive head first into the unknown. A big unknown.

I’m not to say that I live one hundred percent fearlessly because I am still growing and learning. I am still lifting my confidence and belief in all I can accomplish. But when I decided to quit teaching to become a full-time writer and LuLaRoe Consultant, I decided to take a risk on my happiness. It was then that I asked myself, “How much do you believe in YOU?” Working independently can be a difficult road. I’m a realist. There are and will be challenges and there will be moments I question my own sanity. (More than I already do. ;)) However, this was something I needed to do for me. How could I preach confidence and worth when I wasn’t fully giving myself the opportunity to live my truth?

So has begun the journey of being self-employed, of flexibility, and of hard work. I have worked hard my whole life for things I love, and sometimes for what I didn’t love. I’ve always taken my jobs seriously. But this time, this is for me. This new career path was a choice in my personal journey as well. I’ve been working hard in my self-confidence, my security, my self-love. This is my turn to look at what I can do, believe in myself, and work from the heart.

I can make what I love a priority and turn it into a career. How great is that? Talking to my aunt and cousin the other day, we were discussing our purpose. My aunt said, “Your purpose is what comes from the heart. It’s something that fulfills you. Not just a job, but going into that job knowing you are doing what you love and working happily in that choice.” That’s what I’m starting to do.

I’ve always wanted to write. I’ve been working towards having a career where I can guide others, and my words do that. Now, I can help empower women as well in growing that confidence, because for me, LuLaRoe is more than clothes. It’s an opportunity teach others what I, myself, have learned about self-worth and self-love. Through writing and fashion I can live out my purpose. I can incorporate my healing practices and what I’ve learned in that journey.

In LuLaRoe, they ask what your Why is. Why did you want to join this company? Why did you want to become a consultant? My why is simple, I want to be happy. I want to empower others by empowering myself. I want to accomplish greatness and wake up each morning excited about what I do. Will I sometimes still feel fear? Probably. It’s part of life, right? It’s part of the lessons and reminder that we can crush that negative voice and continue to believe in ourselves. It’s overcoming that fear which allows us to continue becoming empowered.

I am a work in progress, just like the many stories I create. Just like the business I run. We are constantly growing and learning, but when I see my sign and I read the word Fearless, I am reminded of my strength. I am reminded that above all, I have the ability to create my own happiness.

Thirty never felt so good~Ditching my twenties a little wiser

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In a few days I’ll be turning 30. I’m still in denial. Not because I think I’m old, but because I feel nowhere near what 30 “should” feel like. I spent part of my 20s obsessed with the fact that I was aging. The other part, the part of my 20s that was closer to 30, was spent rejoicing my age. The irony of life—the older I got, the less I stressed my age.

Throughout these 30 years I have learned a lot, or better yet relearned. Life is full of turns and bumps as well as some straight shots. It’s what makes it beautiful and exciting. My life has led me to learn more than a few lessons. Here are some to keep with you no matter your age:

  1. Age really ain’t nothing but a number

Time is just a form of measure we need as humans to keep track of things. Age is a form of tracking the time we’ve spent living this life. It doesn’t define us or what we can do. It doesn’t limit us if we don’t allow it. Embrace the age you have, whether it’s 15 or 50 and live out your life the way you desire. No one is getting in your way but yourself. You want to rock the shoes you’ve been eyeing at the store, do it. Allow age to make you wiser because of the experiences you’ve had, not limit you to encountering more experiences.

  1. Love yourself

Oh, the never ending battle of “I’m not pretty enough. I’m not tall enough.” At 30, I can say I am well into my personal path of self-discovery. What have I discovered the most? Love begins within. Look at yourself and smile, admire your beauty and tell yourself the three little words we crave to tell someone else. Seduce yourself and find that love you have in your heart so it can blossom inwardly.

  1. Be unapologetically YOU

You are unique in this Earth. Shine your light bright and spread your beauty with the world. I plan to continue working towards this into my 30s. I’m fortunate that my birthday and the year end on the same day. My resolutions are my own reflections of myself, the past year and my evolution into me. The more I reconnect with who I am, the more I want to be that person. I no longer want to apologize for my likes or dislikes. I no longer want to hide my truth out of fear of not fitting in or letting someone down. It’s time to get real.

  1. The daydream is your reality

How many times do we spend dreaming of what could be? Reality begins somewhere, and it’s usually in our dreams, the desires we hold in our hearts that give us passion and drive in life. That same passion you have for hoping something would be a certain way or a certain job would be yours can be put into work. Make it happen. How exciting would it be to live your daydream? It’s possible. Take it from me. I spent a long time dreaming of things I wanted to do until I woke up one day and asked myself, why not? Work hard and stay humble. Dreams do come true.

  1. Don’t be embarrassed to sing in the car

I love to sing. I’m terrible at it. I can admit my weaknesses the same as my strengths. No matter how much I wanted to be a singer as a child, I know it’s not my forte. That doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy good music and jam to my favorite songs. Driving is the best time for that, but I used to shy away if cars were near. Why? I’m sure the person driving next to you is doing the same thing. And if they aren’t, they’re watching you and admiring your guts to let loose and be carefree.

  1. Throw society’s rulebook out the window

I’ve never been one to really follow the rules, especially those placed by society. Who said we had to be married by 23 with a college degree and satisfying job? Who said by age 25 we were supposed to have 2.5 children, which mathematically is not even accurate. And when did we think it was okay to stop living, truly living, in order to make other people happy? Society is made up of humans who decided they were going to put certain things a priority. What is my priority is not yours. If you want to be married with children by 25, go for it. If you want to travel, do that. I was lucky enough to live abroad, get my degree at my pace so I can explore the world, work different jobs, and get a few tattoos along the way. I’m single. I don’t have children. And I’m 30. Embrace your journey and follow your own guidelines to life. After all, you’re the one who is living it.

  1. Follow your intuition

How many times have I ignored thee? I’m grateful my intuition is still intact and willing to give me another chance. Follow your gut. Listen to your heart. And see with your mind’s eye. We know what’s up. Whether we choose to listen or not is our choice, but as soul beings we have an awareness we can develop and open so we can live honestly and knowingly. Our intuition is our guide. It informs us if we should eat that meal, or if that guy is a good date. Our knowingness is one of the greatest gifts we have. I have learned to listen closely and respect it. It’s amazing how life changes when you do.

  1. Date the boy (or girl)

I spent so many years closed off to the world that I never gave anyone a true chance at reaching my heart. I learned. I got hurt. But mostly, I was caged off. I’m at a place in my life now where I am open to meeting someone. I am at a place where I can reflect and be honest with myself. Maybe I could have given that guy I met back in high school a fair chance. I didn’t, but that doesn’t mean I did wrong. I did what I needed to do then. Now I know the difference between listening to my gut or listening to my fear. Don’t be afraid to open up to someone, even if that someone isn’t your forever. Date, meet people, and have fun. Experience different relationships, but always love yourself in the process and know what’s right for you. Keep your heart open to the possibility of falling in love and believe in the happily ever after.

  1. It’s okay to cry

I am the anti-crier. I really don’t get emotional often. I used to pride myself on my strong façade. Then, I went to a meditation a few days ago and the water dam was burst open. Ever since that day I have become overly emotional. At least for a lonely Capricorn like myself, getting emotional is a foreign language. Ever since that day though I have come to terms that it’s okay to show your emotions. Be proud for being human and having feelings instead of shaming yourself as a “weakling.” Seriously, I have become a softie, but instead of getting judged for expressing myself, I’ve been compassionate and others have as well. Feel free to express yourself honestly and demonstrate to the world what you’re feeling. My aunt jokes that it’s part of turning 30, but I know it is part of my own personal evolution. Cry it out and feel.

I look forward to the future. I am excited to see what my 30s will bring and continue to follow these things I mentioned above. And like that old Tim McGraw says, I look forward to my next thirty years.